"It's not important which talents we have.What is important is how we use the ones we have to help others."
--From Barbara Bentley's web site
Perhaps one of the strongest and inspiring women among survivors of domestic violence, Barbara Bentley is the author of A Dance With the Devil: A True Story of Marriage to a Psychopath, a motivational speaker, and victims' advocate. She has made television appearances on shows such as Dateline NBC and Investigation Discovery Channel's Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry? to discuss the experience of her harrowing 14-year marriage to late con man John Perry. She also offers informative and inspiring words on how we can enrich our own lives via her official Twitter.
Barbara Bentley grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, in a middle-class, blue collar town. She graduated summa cum laude with a BS in Marketing and was the Outstanding Undergraduate of the Business School at Golden Gate University in 1986. Her new degree allowed her to advance in the Quality Assurance arena and she recently retired after a thirty-nine year career.
When Bentley decided to write A Dance With the Devil to help others, she didn't realize the story was not complete and that, with passion, planning, patience and persistence, she would go on to change the no-fault divorce law of California. What she did realize was that she needed to learn how to write. She read books, joined writing organizations, and attended writing workshops.
Bentley willingly shares her experience whenever the opportunity arises. She is a motivational speaker who has spoken to audiences numbering from ten to five hundred for such diverse organizations as the American Association of University Women, Soroptimists, the International Women’s Writing Guild, St. Mary’s University, Children’s Advocacy Program and Diablo Valley Collegeand presented a workshop titled "From Victim to Victor" for an all day women's seminar titled “Dream It, Do It.”
Bentley’s story generates public interest and was featured on the 2003 Lifetime Television show Final Justice hosted by Erin Brockovich. On June 7, 2009, she was featured on Dateline NBC and her hour segment was called "The Years of Living Dangerously" and on the July 27, 2011 episode of Investigation Discovery's Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry? called "The Admiral's Wife."
Bentley believes she is one person who can make a difference. It is only by continuing exposure of the psychopath’s techniques that the public can protect themselves from becoming another victim. Bentley could never have imagined her recovery would be so hard won, or that a psychopath would be so hard to lose.
Bentley lives in Northern California with her husband of twelve years, and their cat Sierra. She and her husband are award-winning home wine and label makers who love to travel extensively around the globe --Source
ON THE WEB:
Web Site: A Dance With the Devil
A Dance With the Devil: A True Story of Marriage to a Psychopath on Amazon.com
Barbara Bentley's 10-page interview along with other true crime writers in True Confessions by Leland Gaines
A Dance With the Devil listed as one of the eight "Further Reads" in PUZZLING PEOPLE by Thomas Sheridan